Monday, August 30, 2010

Just Me and My Little Girl

After having some one on one time with one of my twins, I feel the need to revisit the subject and express how truly important it is to spend time alone with each child.
My eldest is homeschooled, so she and I spend everyday together doing schoolwork. Occasionally, we will go shopping together or run errands. This affords us many opportunities to talk about whatever she wants to discuss - a blessing in this time of her growth and change into a young adult.
Spending one on one time with the younger children can be a bit more challenging and requires forethought and planning. It is assuredly worth it, though!
This weekend I spent the day with "My Angel," while the others went fishing with Dad. We did a few chores, then went to the library, got a treat at 7-11, went swimming, practiced yoga, and did manicures and pedicures. It was a calm and beautiful day for the both of us, and I'm sure we both will remember the good time we had together for a long while. She has the pleasure of happy memories with Mom and felt very special just for being her. I believe it's good for the twins to know that they are individuals and that I see them as such. The alone time reaffirms that I feel that way, and gives them a self-esteem boost - something that every kid craves and needs.

Friday, August 27, 2010

Twins in The Same Classroom

Wowee! The end of August is here and what a whirlwind! We returned to the South and had one week to prepare for days in school and evenings in activities. I put the twins in the same classroom again this year. It is always something to think about at the end of the previous school year, and I found myself discussing it with several twin moms. I very much appreciate that in my state, parents have the ultimate say in whether twins are in the same class or separated. This is a wise and compassionate law, because every twin family has different opinions and feelings about their own children, and not every twin will thrive in a mandated situation. Before we moved, the school district in which my twins attended school had a non-negotiable policy which separated twins. Not only was this a hassle for me (attending 4 different classrooms, etc) but the girls were genuinely sad to be separated from their best buddy all day, every day.
Now, I do some deliberation and have a conversation with them, then write a letter to the school principal with my choice. Other twin families I know let fate decide if their kids are to be in the same classroom, and some opt for separation. Of the families I know that separate, it is interesting to note that they are all boy/girl twins. A common theme with them is that the girl twin ends up spending much time nurturing the boy, not allowing him to be responsible for himself.
Like most decisions a family has to make, having twins together in a classroom or separate is a very personal one. It should be made with the children's best interest at heart and not dictated by a principal, superintendent, nor a lawmaker.

Friday, August 6, 2010

So Loving the Summer!

We've had such an amazing summer. The camps in June were wonderful, then we were off to the Midwest to enjoy 5 weeks of visiting with family and friends, golf, tennis, yoga, boating, art, shopping, music making, attending shows, and even the quirky tourist activities of bumper cars and go karts. I felt like it was very important to keep the kids busy to avoid squabbles and TV watching, and for the most part, this plan worked. There was the occasional tormenting car ride where I resorted to bribery and "quiet contests." Our usual mode of transportation is a conversion van, so it was difficult for them to pack into a sedan style car.
Everyone had their favorite summer activity. My 9 year old's was the New Shanghai Circus performance. She was mesmerized and is still talking about it 2 weeks later. The tween especially liked the Titanic Museum. The twins were not able to pinpoint a particular activity as their favorite, they loved it all!
So, in 3 days, we end our season in the Middle and return to the swampy south, to school, activities, our man, and our cats!